These maxims help us to live
better and coexist more peacefully with each other. They are of equal
importance and they are interrelated. But they are not laws. They are spiritual
imperatives. What is the difference? A law is a rule which holds us accountable
for our actions. A spiritual imperative is a calling to do better.
Be true.
Being true means being honest in
word and deed. Speak what you believe to be the truth. When you give your word,
do your best to live up to your promise. Be clear about your intentions. Honor your
commitments in all your relationships.
Part of being true is understanding
what is false. We often accept as true things we cannot possibly confirm simply
because we do not want our comfortable sense of things to be challenged. Trust
and trustworthiness are two sides of being true. A reasonable skepticism can be
healthy and protect us from deceit. But if we trust no one then skepticism
turns into cynicism or worse paranoia. Then we cannot see truth when it is in
right front of us. This causes a destructive loop in our consciousness. If we
cannot recognize what is true, how can we be true ourselves?
Being accurate is not always the
same as being truthful. Making an accurate statement can be misleading or cruel
which is not being true. Neither is withholding the truth. To be true, we need
to also understand how our worldview colors the truth we experience, and recognize
that there may be truths beyond our understanding. Truth is at the heart of all
spiritual imperatives. Without an awareness of truth we cannot act on any of
the others.
Be kind.
It is sad that the number of ways
one person can be cruel to another is probably as great as the number of grains
of sand on a beach. Yet one of the beautiful balancing elements found in our
universe is that for every way a person can be cruel there is an equal and
opposite way we can be kind.
It is not enough to reject cruelty
and violence. We must intentionally choose to be kind. We need to be aware of
those around us in need. And we need to have an awareness of the impact that our
words and actions have on others. Kindness is thoughtfulness.
To be thoughtful, first you have
to care. Seeing someone in need must trigger a response. We are conditioned to
protect ourselves from pain. Seeing someone else suffer can cause us to be
afraid for our own physical and emotional safety. When we care, we overcome
those fears. Life experience teaches us to recognize when it is worth it to
risk being kind without expecting something in return. Each caring word or act
teaches us that kindness is its own reward.
Be open.
Being true and being kind requires
us to be open, to be willing to learn something. By being open to life’s
experiences we welcome the chance to grow and change. When we close ourselves
up, we set boundaries on the ways we interact with the world around us.
To be closed is to be afraid. And,
fear is at the heart of every cruel response. Fear is an emotional defense
against pain, risk, and uncertainty. To be open is to be brave. When we are
open, we defy those forces beyond control and assert our own free will.
Being open means being teachable. The
more we learn about the people and the world around us, the more we understand
how to be true, how to be kind, how to choose joy. Suffering is a universal
experience. My mother used to say that into every life a little rain must fall.
But if we are open to it we can make a choice between drowning in our sorrows
and being bathed by what we learn from them.
Be true. Be kind. Be open. These
three spiritual imperatives are not new ideas. They have been a part of human
understanding since time began. When we put all three together we are given an
instruction manual for not just dealing with life as we find it, but for moving
our lives in a positive direction.
Though each person finds their own
way of living into them, we are all called to meet the challenges they suggest.
And just when we think we have completely understood them we will find them
teaching us something completely new and unexpected.
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